Everyone wants to find "the one", but after you do, what's the best way to keep them forever?

FOX's Ashley Papa has this week's "FOX on Love":

One goal of dating is to find "the one", get married and live happily ever after. But there can't be a "happily ever after" if the relationship is not healthy.

According to marriage and family therapist, Dr. Jennifer Freed, a healthy relationship is one where both people don't take each other for granted and prioritize the health of the relationship:

(Dr. Freed) "An unhealthy relationship is one in which people expect the relationship to take care of them instead of taking care of the relationship and when things don't go well they seek to blame one another instead of taking responsibility."

Freed says the most important qualities of a healthy relationship are humor, honesty and vulnerability:

(Dr. Freed) "If you wake up every day and actually just spend a couple of minutes thinking about how to make your mate's life a little better and you practice that, you have a really good chance at having a relationship last."

All couples hit relationship road bumps, says Freed. It's how you survive them that'll show how "healthy" your relationship really is.

With FOX on Love, I'm Ashley Papa.

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