Helpful Tips on Cutting the Cord on Your Relationship
What is the best way to say “I don’t,” what is the best way to break up with someone?
FOX’s Ashley Papa weighs in during this “FOX on Love”:
You’ve been mulling it over for a while and you decided it’s time to break up with your partner. It’s natural to want to avoid the conflict, but what is the best way to end a relationship? License marriage and family therapist Dr. Paul Hokemeyer says do it in person, be direct and respectful:
(Hokemeyer) “One of the major don’t’s is to say things like this isn’t about you, this is about me, I mean of course it’s about them. The truth of the matter is if you’re in a relationship is it is about us.”
While avoiding trite phrases Hokemeyer says to focus on I and your feelings, but don’t make it a laundry list of your partners mistakes:
(Hokemeyer) “And the lesson is not to say that you need a break from the relationship, chances are that you thought a lot about this. So if you really want to break up, don’t say that you need a break and you just want to take a pause in the relationship. Make sure that you cut it clearly.”
Your now ex is going to be upset. Hokemeyer says to give them space as you are not responsible for their emotions.
With FOX on Love, I’m Ashley Papa.
