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The most wonderful time of year can feel like one of the worst if there’s been a loss in the family. Talking about it may help.

FOX’s Lisa Brady reports in this week’s ‘FOX on Family’:

The holidays can be emotionally challenging, especially after a death in the family. I lost my grandma last year and while I know she’d want me to enjoy Christmas, it can help children cope with a more recent loss if adults to open up.

(Trachta): “When adults are open about it, it gives children permission to talk about their own feelings and to ask questions that they might have.”

Long-time teacher and author Laurie Trachta, says you may have to seize the moment; if a younger child heard you talking on the phone for instance… Or, create an opportunity with a joint activity, maybe coloring or a game, then share how you’re feeling:

(Trachta): “You know it’s been three weeks since grandma died and I don’t know about you, but I’m missing her.”

Especially important if there’s any sign a child may not be coping well, like changes in normal behavior. Trachta also says something tangible can help the healing process, a book or video they can turn to. Her book is called ‘Can the Sad Come Out?’

With FOX on Family, I’m Lisa Brady.

Laurie Trachta has a Bachelors Degree in Education and a Masters Degree in School Counseling. She has taught grades 1-8 as well as adult education and spent over 20 years working with high risk junior high students. Her children’s book, Can The Sad Come Out?, is designed to help adults talk to kids about death and grief.