In the Annals of Better Parenting we have a special shoutout to the parents of two teenage girls who called the cops on their own kids. A special Croix de Gibson for this mom and dad, and pronto!
Here was the situation as best we can discern from the news reports.
The parents evidently trust their teenage daughters, ages 15 and 16, because mom and dad decided to go away for the weekend, leaving the girls at home to hold down the fort.
The girls promptly called their friends… texted, most likely…and had a teen party for three nights running.
The kids who attended were drinking, as you would expect. What teenager has a party these days in which the beverage of choice is a sugary fizzy soda?
Problem: parents come home early, in time to catch daughters and friends in mid-party.
Some kids ran. Others reportedly were resistant to leaving the house.
That’s when mom and dad called the cops.
The police arrived, sent the interlopers on their way, then promptly arrested the 15 year old and the 16 year old daughters, charging them with permitting the possession of alcohol by underage persons.
So in essence, the parents had their daughters arrested.
A great debate has ensued.
Should parents have their own children arrested?
I say “Of course.”
But I worked in a juvenile hall when I was in college, so I can be expected to take a tougher line than some.
However, I do think it is a problem if parents do not communicate to their children that there is a world out there which will not regard children with the same sense of indulgence that parents sometimes do.
Is it better to acquaint a teenager with the consequences of their actions while they are juveniles and might end up in a juvenile hall or wait until they are adults and are confronted with justice in an adult jail?
Believe, juvenile hall is much preferable to adult jail.
When it comes to how society enforces its laws, parents are best advised to think of their child’s safety and security… and start ’em young.
Wait too long and it gets very ugly very fast.